“We’re all destined for greatness in our own way”…
Even though most people may not instantly recognize the power of this affirmation. We need to constantly be looking for ways to become the best version of ourselves. At any given point in time all of us have felt this yearning to become more than we currently are; to be more than we currently see of ourselves.
We’ve researched 14 completely different perspectives; from experts in the field to everyday people to bring you these simple tips to becoming the best possible version of yourself.
1.Get to know yourself
As simple as it may seem, it is one of the most complex concepts established. For many generations before us, the quest of self discovery has been riddled with questions. As difficult as it may seem; it is easy to see why this concept hasn’t been better explored. We’re simply NOT asking the right questions. Who are we? Our answer usually involves a role instead of an answer.
We may be a father, mother, husband, wife, brother, son, employee, friend, etc. None of these delve into who we are; but rather about what we do and what roles we play in our daily lives. We need to dig deep into introspective analysis of our behaviors to get a clearer answer.
Ask yourself questions about where you see yourself in 5 years; what are your biggest regrets; what has kept you from reaching your true potential; if there were no limits to your desires where would you see yourself; and many other questions which get us into the mindset of evaluating where we are in our lives. Be honest with your answers and remember that life is a very different journey for each and everyone of us.
Your goals will be different depending on the stage you’re in. Just make sure to continue dreaming and taking firm actions steps towards achieving each goal. This journey is not about reaching the destination; it is about making the most your ride.
2.Think before you speak
Each and everyone of us have faced situations where the words left our mouths before they checked in with our brain. This great article from Wiki-How breaks down 10 key steps to check yourself before you find yourself in that type of situation. A key component to growing and learning from this, is to develop the awareness and maturity to regulate our words and sync them to our thoughts. We need to be fully present in every situation in order for our thoughts to have the validity of assessing the situation before putting words into the equation.
3.Take better care of yourself
Many experts in the field are consistent in recommending key behavior adjustments to help improve our well-being. They all make reference to the ability each individual needs to create in order to bring balance into their lives. This great article by Success.com provides key advice for the everyday individual who just wants to take better care of their well-being in different areas of their life. Advice ranges from better planning your off time and meditation to exercising correctly and reading something refreshing.
The articles guides you to understanding how to maximize your time in order to nurture your soul and spirit. We need to make constant adjustments towards a more balanced life. This will permit the pieces of our life puzzle to fall into place as we progress.
4.Don’t make excuses
Before you make your next excuse, ask yourself this: What can I do to improve? Be honest with yourself about what you can do better, and you can free yourself of the blame and the denial that is sure to hold you back. Take responsibility for your actions, and you can live an incredible life of integrity. Make time to create positive momentum, and you will keep moving forward.
Honesty is going to take you places in life that you never could have dreamed and it’s the easiest thing you can practice in order to be happy, successful and fulfilled. Honesty is part of the foundation of core values and principles. Honesty cuts through deception and knifes its way through deceit and lies. Honesty leads to a fulfilling, free life. Honesty is not just about telling the truth. It’s about being real with yourself and others about who you are, what you want and what you need to live your most authentic life.
Being honest promotes openness, empowers us and enables us to develop consistency in how we present the facts. Honesty sharpens our perception and allows us to observe everything around us with better clarity.
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Remember that a life well-lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving power over you to the person who caused you pain, look for the love, beauty, and kindness around you. Put more energy into appreciating what you have rather than attending to what you do not have.
7.Learn to listen
Learning to listen means learning to actually pay attention to to concentrate on what other people are saying. Listening to their words as if listening to a favorite song, with your mind focused on what they are saying and what it means. Concentrated listening is also called “active listening” or “deep listening.” Deep listening gives greatly increased concentration, enjoyment of music as well as other humans, and perhaps most importantly a profoundly positive shift in the quality of relationships.
Listening with concentration can be called active listening because we are not just passively allowing speech to enter our ears, but instead are bringing as much of our listening capacity into the act as possible. Our ears become hungry for the words they are listening to, and chew the words as finely as possible before digesting them. The first step in learning to listen is to learn to be quiet. Make a friend of silence. This can be difficult because nobody wants to be thought of as dull. There is a natural desire to respond quickly, and to be seen as interesting and smart. But if you resist this urge even a little bit, a new thing can begin to happen.
8.Take the time to learn new things
Although we are currently blessed with unlimited access to infinite amounts of relevant information; most people limit their reach by only pursuing local resources such as social media and invest their time on these shallow pools of information. We are offered access to learn countless new topics from blog posts and great articles on learning new skills, to videos and how-to tutorials to assist you in learning new things. Challenge yourself to learn a new skill every month.
Look for skills that will empower you and contribute to your quality of life. We found a great article from Develop Good Habits that provides detailed suggestions of new skills everyone should master in order to improve your skillset. We have to focus on building a skill portfolio that will give us the ability of making a difference wherever we are.
9.Get into in the art of conversation
Conversation is civilized speech. It is more purposeful than chatter; more humane than gossip; more intimate than debate. But it is an elusive ideal. In our verbal exchanges we often flip from one topic to another – while conversation suggests something more sustained, more substantial. A conversation is the encounter of two polished minds: tactful enough to listen, confident enough to express their true beliefs; subtle enough to search out the reasons behind the thoughts.
A conversation is a work of art with more than one creator. So, quite often, two or more people cannot rise to the level of conversation. They talk with one another. It may be cheerful, it may be polite, it may be a bit funny, it may be informative. But it lacks something crucial to conversation: the risk of seriousness. Secretly we yearn for real conversation, because we long to encounter the best and most substantial versions of other people. We long for the truth of our selves to be grasped and liked by another person. A classical conception of conversation takes convergence as its final – if distant – goal. When intelligent, reasonable and cultivated people disagree there is almost always some hidden confusion or failure of evidence that explains the lack of harmony.
But with time and care these failings can be made good. Classical conversation is the mutual aid in the joint pursuit of the truth. An interim benefit of such conversation is the light it sheds on what decent people really actually do disagree about. And more than that it illuminates the intimate why: the motives, fears, hopes, associations, key experiences, leaps of logic and quiet deductions – all of the things that add up to explaining why a serious person holds the view they do. This is surprisingly rare. How often, really, do we appreciate why someone thinks as they do? This is why true conversation is not quite like a debate. In a debate one feels that an argument has priority.
In conversation it is the person that comes first. And though our traditions of law, science and scholarship, and even of politics, make a noble cause of putting the argument first, there is something they lose along the way. In the end, all beliefs are the beliefs of individuals. This does not establish truth – for what is the case is the case whether anyone assents to it or not. Our maturity level will increase when we develop the art of establishing great conversations.
10.Give everyone the benefit of the doubt
A believer always makes it farther than someone just going through the motions. A believer fights harder for what he wants. A believer makes it to the finish line faster. Sure there are bumps and bruises along the way. Tears and pain. But there just aren’t enough good reasons to stop believing. Even if you just believe in you, that’s enough. Start there. It’s much more beneficial for us to walk through life not judging from what we see in other but from what others eventually show to us through actions along the way.
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11.Your daily routine needs to reflect your long term goals
We all have habits. Some of those habits help to serve us. Others help to hold us back. In fact, we are the culmination of our habits — what we do on a daily basis is a direct reflection of the state and quality of our lives. So it goes without saying that people who want to improve their lives and achieve their goals need to create a better set of habits. While it’s easy to claim we want to improve our lives by building better habits, it’s harder to do. However, when you take into consideration that 45 percent of everyday behavior is habit-driven, the importance of improving our daily habits becomes a bit more apparent since such a large part of what we think, to what we say and do, are all steeped in ritualistic behavior. Of course, the importance of habits is apparent. But of all the habits that we can have, it’s the morning habits that truly set the pace and quality of our lives.
What you do in the morning has a resounding affect on the balance of your day. Therefore, by instilling some key morning habits, we can make monumental shifts in our lives. No matter what it is we do or where we live, there are certain habits that we can interweave into our daily routine that will make an enormous difference. These habits are also known as keystone habits. They act almost as the soil for which other good habits can grow from, while also working to deter bad habits along the way.
For the most part, when you focus on keystone habits, other good habits tend to fall into place. For example, if you’re on a diet and you ensure that you get 30 minutes of exercise in, you’re more likely to watch what you eat, maybe drink more water that day, and possibly even take your vitamins. However, when you skip the exercise, you might be more inclined to cheat, maybe eat some fast food, possibly drink soda or alcohol, and veer just a little off course. That’s because exercise is a keystone habit.
When you focus on the keystone habits in the morning, you’ll be less likely to get sidetracked because they will act as the glue for the other good habits. A great article from Wanderlust Worker suggests 7 key points to enhance your morning routine in order to work towards reaching your goals at a steady pace.
12.Don’t leave room for regrets
After exhaustive research we came across a great article from Tiny Buddha that showcased 40 ways to live without regrets. From accepting mistakes and following your own path; to being adventurous and finding humor in life, you will find these 40 ways to live without regrets can guide you to improve your quality of life by shifting your focus to living in the moment and not regretting a single second. It’s all about how you can convert regrets into learning experiences which will help you grow.
13.Remember where you came from
Remembering where you came from, what you’ve been through and what you have felt leads to a better understanding of other people and situations. A better understanding leads to success. Success is not measured only by paychecks and possessions; it is also measured by who you are. What kind of a person are you? Arrogant? Demeaning? Patient? Understanding? Do people turn around when they see you coming or are you approachable? You were the “new guy” once.
You’ve been that irate caller. You’ve been through bad situations. Draw from your memories and remember where you came from. Coming from a place of understanding will move you toward success. Remember where you came from and be Extraordinary in your future! The past will lead you to your future if you’re willing to learn from it.
14.Be willing to change
Such a simple yet powerful statement. Change is all around us – all the time. And this is truer now than ever before. This fact is important to us as individuals, because we need to be in front of the changes we may face on a personal level. If you want change to happen in your life, you need to be willing to change too. More than willing, you must change.
Even more than that, people must see you as changing. Remember, people watch your feet far more than your lips. Gandhi said “you must be the change you want to see in the world.” This is profoundly true, often repeated, and nodded at – then promptly ignored. Are you doing, or ignoring? Do people see the change in your actions? Willingness isn’t enough, and even change itself isn’t enough – people must see your example in order for you to champion change most successfully. Successful people often learn what “everyone else does” then do the opposite. It is a good strategy, and it applies here.
Most leaders try to orchestrate change like a puppeteer manipulates a puppet – hands off and from a distance – don’t follow that example. If you want change, real change, or more rapid change, you have to get into the game. You have to sacrifice, make adjustments, and change your behavior – and you have to help others see that you are doing it. This isn’t acting – it must be authentic – and you must do it if you want to create the kind of change you really need in your organization.
Take the ideas in this issue to heart, and feet. If you want to create change – start with yourself.
What steps do you currently take that are moving you closer to becoming the best version of yourself?